Tweens (ages 10-12)

Avoiding the Awkwardness: How to Talk to Your Kiddo About Sex

By | 2017-11-03T18:15:44+00:00 November 3rd, 2017|Children (ages 0-5), Children (ages 6-9), Teens, Tweens (ages 10-12)|

“The talk”.... Or so it’s called. But the topic of sex should be more of an ongoing dialogue as our kids grow and develop. In my years of child and family therapy, I’ve found this ongoing approach to be the most productive for healthy sexual development. However, this isn’t at all how I was raised. I grew up in a strict Catholic household where sex was a covert, very “hush hush” topic. I was one of those teens who secretly started shaving her legs and wearing a bra to school without my mom knowing. She acted so weird and uncomfortable [...]

It’s Okay For My Child to Fail

By | 2017-10-23T21:33:50+00:00 October 23rd, 2017|Children (ages 0-5), Children (ages 6-9), Teens, Tweens (ages 10-12)|

  It's Okay For My Child to Fail Failure is hard to accept. I’ve failed...a lot. And I will let my daughter fail as well. Okay, Giada is only 4 months old, so her failures are minimal at this point. Regardless of her age, my wife and I have a pact that Giada will be doing a lot of self-learning, playing alone, and failing. It’s very difficult to let our children fail in any aspect of life. But life’s failures help prepare our children for the realities of life as a self-sufficient adult. Life is not always easy. Life does [...]

Fun & Rewarding Way To Improve Your Child’s Behavior

By | 2017-10-17T16:19:41+00:00 October 16th, 2017|Children (ages 0-5), Children (ages 6-9), Teens, Tweens (ages 10-12)|

Fun & Rewarding Way to Improve Your Child’s Behavior As a parent, behavior challenges are never easy to deal with. From not doing chores to acting out in public, changing bad behavior is tough. Dr. Luisa is the absolute best at changing kids’ behaviors! (okay, I’m biased, I’m her husband) One of the most successful methods she implements with her families is the Token Economy. This is when a child is given the opportunity to earn tokens when they execute specific desired behaviors. As your child earns tokens they redeem them for rewards. It’s a win-win for all involved. Check [...]

The homework battle: Stop fighting and start writing

By | 2017-09-23T23:29:12+00:00 September 22nd, 2017|Children (ages 0-5), Children (ages 6-9), Tweens (ages 10-12)|

Homework. Just mentioning the word makes me cringe and brings back horrors from my own youth. The fights, the worry, the late nights. The hours spent thinking up excuses to explain why those pesky math problems didn't get finished. Eventually, I learned what was behind my own personal struggle with homework: the perception that my work had to be perfect, which led to me feeling completely overwhelmed, anxious, and aided me in becoming the world's greatest procrastinator. If only my parents and I had figured this out in the third grade, those countless battles of hurtful words, tears, and doors [...]

Say the right thing when your child is upset

By | 2017-07-13T15:43:37+00:00 July 12th, 2017|Children (ages 0-5), Children (ages 6-9), Teens, Tweens (ages 10-12)|

When you're upset, has anyone ever told you to "just stop crying" or "don't be sad"? Is it helpful? Is it that easy just to automatically stop crying or to feel differently (aka better) at a moment when you are really down? Unless you have super powers, it's near impossible to change how you feel at the drop of a hat. Usually comments that instruct you how to feel make you feel worse because they dismiss your emotional experience. And yet, even though these types of comments make us feel terrible, we continue to say these things to kids. Why? Because we're human and [...]

Too much praise… Is there such a thing?

By | 2017-05-20T01:34:54+00:00 May 19th, 2017|Children (ages 0-5), Children (ages 6-9), Tweens (ages 10-12)|

We’ve all heard the warnings about how too much praise can go to a child’s head. And we live in a day and age when children are given ribbons for participation and awards for “best effort.” Many people claim too much praise breeds narcissism, haughtiness, and an unrealistic sense of self. If a child is constantly showered with compliments and never provided with constructive criticism, that child’s ego IS likely to suffer. However, praise, when offered effectively, can not only contribute positively to a child’s self-esteem, but it can also increase good behavior. Praise is one of the most effective [...]

Stop that end of school year slump! Easy-peasy tips for keeping your kiddo on track

By | 2017-03-24T23:22:05+00:00 March 24th, 2017|Children (ages 6-9), Teens, Tweens (ages 10-12)|

Spring break is nearly over but there’s still a few months of the school year to trudge through. Keeping kids motivated at the end of the school year can certainly be a challenge. With the weather getting nicer and spring sports and activities in full swing, it’s easy to lose sight of grades and homework, and before you know it, you’re scrambling to get your kiddo to complete late work and boost his or her GPA before the last bell. This year, be proactive and stay on top of homework with these easy tips: Structure It Up Structure is super [...]

My kid is a bully…. Now what?

By | 2017-02-18T22:03:48+00:00 February 18th, 2017|Children (ages 6-9), Teens, Tweens (ages 10-12)|

Last month’s blog post focused on helping your child weather the social and emotional tolls of being bullied. This month’s focus is on kids who engage in bullying others. The big question involves why kids bully. It’s easy for kids of all types to get caught up in bullying. Nice kids bully. Intelligent kids bully. Kids who have been bullied sometimes bully others. Kids who bully others are often searching for affirmation in the form of power, dominance and control- all things children tend to lack just by nature of being a kid. When kids bully others, it can also [...]

Say No to Bullying: Simple Tips for Strong, Confident Kids

By | 2017-01-14T18:09:21+00:00 January 14th, 2017|Children (ages 0-5), Children (ages 6-9), Tweens (ages 10-12)|

Bullying is a serious problem in our nation. According to the National Bullying Prevention Center, approximately one out of every four students (22%) is bullied each school year. What’s more is that 54% of kids who are bullied don’t report it. Bullying can take on many forms- verbal (name calling), physical (aggressive acts), and social-emotional (rumors, social exclusion). Bullying can occur in real life or it can be virtual in the form of cyberbullying. Parents have a natural protective instinct and want to do everything they can to prevent bullying… but if 54% of kids don’t admit to being bullied, [...]

5 simple tips for easy-peasy holiday travel

By | 2016-12-11T23:08:06+00:00 December 11th, 2016|Adults, Children (ages 6-9), Tweens (ages 10-12)|

Holiday travel can often be a total disaster. Flight delays, horrendous traffic, and nasty wintertime flu can leave you feeling worse than Mr. Scrooge. Add traveling with kids into the mix and your patience, poise, and rule to "never yell in public" is sure to be tested. However, holiday travel doesn't have to involve bah humbugs and emotional meltdowns. With a little extra planning and a few quick mental tricks, your holiday travel can be easy-peasy.  Check out these simple tips for navigating holiday travel successfully: 1. PREPARE FOR THE WORST Expect a few glitches in your travel plans. That way [...]