Teens

My kid is a bully…. Now what?

By | 2017-02-18T22:03:48+00:00 February 18th, 2017|Children (ages 6-9), Teens, Tweens (ages 10-12)|

Last month’s blog post focused on helping your child weather the social and emotional tolls of being bullied. This month’s focus is on kids who engage in bullying others. The big question involves why kids bully. It’s easy for kids of all types to get caught up in bullying. Nice kids bully. Intelligent kids bully. Kids who have been bullied sometimes bully others. Kids who bully others are often searching for affirmation in the form of power, dominance and control- all things children tend to lack just by nature of being a kid. When kids bully others, it can also [...]

Your Kiddo’s Grades: How Involved Should Parents Get?

By | 2016-10-31T01:22:54+00:00 September 24th, 2016|Children (ages 6-9), Teens, Tweens (ages 10-12)|

Parents & Homework: Too involved? Anyone remember the days of report cards that showed up in the mail? I have vivid memories of my sisters and I awaiting anxiously by the mailbox at semester's end. We would intercept the mail to check for any surprises before my parents got ahold of it... just in case. This scenario is certainly a blast form the past, as the majority of  schools these days allow students and parents to easily (and sometimes compulsively) check grades via the internet. There are certainly advantages to such access, as it allows for communication between [...]

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Boogers, Bubbles, and Zits … Therapy with Kids is Great

By | 2016-10-31T01:22:54+00:00 August 22nd, 2016|Adults, Children (ages 0-5), Children (ages 6-9), Teens, Tweens (ages 10-12)|

I love kids. I think they're incredibly unique and insightful. Just when I think I know what I'm doing, a kid puts me in my place ... and I'm immediately humbled all over again. And kids are absolutely hilarious. The other day I was thinking about the reasons I love working with kids, and I decided to compile a list to share with you all. So here it is (in no particular order): Kids have no judgments. Kids are not afraid to tell it like it is. One time I was testing a 7-year-old boy and he told me he couldn't [...]

Employment in high school: Should you encourage your teen to work?

By | 2016-10-31T01:22:54+00:00 April 2nd, 2016|Teens|

The research on adolescent employment is mixed, with almost all experts agreeing that the question "Is it good for teens to work?" is oversimplified. Having a job as a teenager can have both positive and negative effects and depends on many factors (e.g. level of investment in employment, specific experiences teens have while working, and motivation to work). Teens who do benefit from high school jobs are more likely to be highly intrinsically motivated to succeed in school. That is, they value earning good grades and self-select to work fewer hours in order to keep up with schoolwork, participate in [...]

Kids and allowances: To give or not to give?

By | 2016-10-31T01:22:54+00:00 February 27th, 2016|Children (ages 0-5), Children (ages 6-9), Teens, Tweens (ages 10-12)|

Many parents struggle with decisions about how, when, and if to give their children allowances. While there is really no one correct answer to each of these questions, there are some great opinions and research on this topic. As a child psychologist, I support giving children an allowance; it can be a valuable parenting tool if done effectively. Below I explain my reasoning for allowance giving and provide answers to some of the common questions parents often ask me: What's the purpose of giving an allowance? Allowances provide children with valuable educational tools. If your children have access to their "own" [...]

I’m sorry for my ADHD, Mom; Let’s have a better life

By | 2016-10-31T01:22:57+00:00 January 24th, 2016|Children (ages 0-5), Children (ages 6-9), Teens, Tweens (ages 10-12)|

I think we sometimes forget that kids who have Attention-Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) don't chose the problems they have. Whether it's talking too much, bouncing off the walls, or having the attention span of a gnat, kids with ADHD often truly cannot control their behavior. They are many times labeled as annoying, socially immature, self-centered, out-of-control, and rude. While these labels certainly do describe typical ADHD behaviors, they certainly don't help us to understand and intervene with kids who struggle with ADHD. In my work as a child psychologist, I help several kids and families with ADHD. The ways in which [...]

5 reasons marijuana is detrimental to the teen brain

By | 2016-10-31T01:22:58+00:00 June 12th, 2015|Teens|

Marijuana has been known as the gateway drug of teen substance use for decades. It's often thought of as less harmful and consequential than other drugs because it's "natural" and now legal in many parts of our country. In the U.S. and other first world nations, marijuana is the second most commonly used substance among teens after  alcohol. Why? Because it's easy to obtain and attitudes about the risk of regular use are becoming more lackadaisical by the year. Teenagers are increasingly associating regular marijuana use as "no big deal". Marijuana's increasing popularity has sparked the attention of researchers- which has led to [...]

What to say (and what to avoid saying) when a friend is suffering

By | 2016-10-31T01:22:59+00:00 January 11th, 2015|Adults, Teens|

Early last week I received some harrowing news. An old friend of mine lost her husband suddenly and unexpectedly. He was young. He was healthy. And they had a family. I grappled with how to respond. What do I do? What should I say? How should I say it? It took me awhile to wrap my head around the situation and get my own emotions in check. When I did, I wrote a message and later in the week, I sent a card. As I carefully chose my words, I reflected on my training as a psychologist in coping with [...]

6 amazing gift ideas that won’t cost you a cent

By | 2016-10-31T01:22:59+00:00 December 20th, 2014|Children (ages 0-5), Children (ages 6-9), Teens, Tweens (ages 10-12)|

The holiday season can certainly be stressful. Party planning, cookie making, gift giving, traveling, dealing with financial guilt... and the list goes on. It's very easy to get lost in the hustle and bustle and forget what the holidays are truly about- family, friends, gratitude, spreading good cheer, and the celebration of mankind. Teaching your children about the significance of gift giving is important, but sometimes it's hard to remember that it really is the thought that counts. We'd like to share a few gift options below that don't cost a cent because having a handy list of gifts that [...]

No, I will NOT take a deep breath!

By | 2016-10-31T01:23:02+00:00 April 20th, 2014|Adults, Teens|

Ever have a situation that really makes you fume? I'm talking about the kind of thing that makes you go from irritated to furious in .25 seconds? When you feel as though you could literally start having a 2-year-old tantrum while clenching your fists and screaming at the top of your lungs out of pure frustration? If you've never felt this way, I applaud you, and would really like to know how you pull off that inner calm. I may be a psychologist, but that doesn't mean I've mastered emotional control 100 percent of each and every day. In fact, [...]